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Sexercise 5 minutes A Day
by Angela
by Angela
Sex education different itself from sex service by the step by step approaching. Sex education has the history as long as human beings exists, but mostly secretly, from mother to daughter, from father to son. Strange thing is, although earth is divided into many parts, all sex educations are very similar to their levels:
1# Instinct level: All women need know is to open their legs and allow the men do whatever they want, enduring some pain in the most cases. All men need know is to find the right location of the hole, move their penis in and out. Hence human beings are animals, no one can complain that quite a number of people still belong to this level.
2# Sutra level: This is the level which adds a lot of foreplay, afterplay and physical skills. Very possibly it comes from strong competitions between the same sex: If a woman want to be a king’s favorite, sexual skills is a must be. If a man want to show his male strength, the best way is to make a woman moan happily.
3# Tantra level: Religions play a big role here. While some religions suppress sex, there are other religions which teach how to transform sexual energy to personal psychic power. Tibetan Buddhism, Indian Yoga, Western Pagan and Chinese Tao all call it “sex magic” based on their quick result. This is also how spiritual sex is kept spreading in human realm.
Forms of Sex Education
by Angela
It’s crucial how you educate yourself: It decides what kind of sexual being you will be in long term run. Just like kids are white paper, then change into whatever it’s written on the paper. The same rule apply to adult’s sexual life:
1# Porn movie. MISLEADING!!! This is the most easy, popular, but worst education form you can reach. As movies, the producers have to show audience something dramatic which means violent movement, quick up and down, rough in and out. But it’s not the real case! Sex is more like dancing, begin from slow, gentle, then proceed to strong rhythm. One common mistake is the missionary penetration position: the man’s lower belly has to touch woman’s pelvic area all the time so the clitoris can receive continued stimulation for woman to reach orgasm. When it’s shown in sex education DVD, you can see the man only move his hip very slightly, two body look more like glued to each other. This is the real way to please a woman! When I describe this way to male clients, most of them show me a surprising face: “But it’s not what the porn movie shows!” Porn movie is for entertainment only, not education oriented.
2# Peer rumor. Every man can boost their male ego by proudly declare how many women he slept, how hard he fucked them and how much those women want him. If you buy their words, you are sure enough on the dead end: You can never make it happen in the real world. To keep a simple and happy relationship is a better way to enjoy sex.
3# Sex education material: This is the first hoping star shining on the sky. Many books, Websites and DVDs are on market now. Go through several of them and decide which one attracts you most. Concentrate on that one and you will proceed on your own pace. At least, it’s a good beginning. Clinical sex therapy is for those who are facing some serious problems. It’s a talking therapy and you still need find a partner to practice with.
4# Sex coach: This is a tool combining talking and practicing together. No academic degree is ever issued to this kind of knowledge since it’s still morally wrong to buy sex. So the market runs underground, hides behind sex industry and becomes very diversified: Only read the back pages of “George Straight” and you get all kinds of forms handy: Tantra practitioner, massage girls, kinky girls, escort girls etc. I used to grade these services: high or low, good or bad. After many years practicing, I began to realize: The most important thing is to find the service which suites your need. It’s more like food: Find your favorite restaurant which your body is hungry for. By practicing, you will grow and change.
Sex, Death and Consciousness
by Angela
This topic is not about philosophy discussion, but practical applications to gain money, power, love etc., anything you want on earth.
Consciousness: To be successful, the No.1 request is “think differently.” If you read several books about famous people in the history, no matter they are judged good or bad morally, from Washington to Hitler, from Ford to Mao Tsedong, this is the common character they have: their creative thoughts, their own mind, sometimes very rebelling and different from mass value. Right because they think differently, they can catch the chance normal people can’t see, they can hit enemy’s weakness without the enemy’s own knowing.
Death: One way to change consciousness quickly is via death. Following body’s death, consciousness will not disappear, but change dramatically. That’s why people who had near death experience changed their personality surprisingly. Clinton is a good example: After his serious heart attack, he looks differently and behave differently now: there is a light in his existence, a warmth in his surroundings.
Sex: Another way to change consciousness quickly is via tantra sex. There are three levels of sex: reproduction (instinction), pleasure (sutra) and wisdom (tantra). People who have a strong sexual desire, but know how to reserve it and change it into brain juice have a far better chance to win any game they play in the life. Especially orgasm, French call it "small death", which means extraordinary consciousness experience during that period of time. Many religions have secret ways to train disciples experience as many orgasm as possible by semen retention skill, so their teachings will be understood and applied much faster than normal spiritual growth. In another word, if you want to improve your life’s quality, the quickest way is to learn Tantra sex.
Sexual Healing and Sexual Pleasure
by Angela
A typical phone conversation between me and a male client always runs like this:
Client:" Hi, I come too quick. Can you show me how to slow down when I practice with you?"
Me:" This is like driving a car directly to high way without practicing in a parking lot first! "
It looks like people tend to equalize sexual healing to sexual pleasure which of course is a misunderstanding. Sexual pleasure is easy to understand: All those escort services, massage sites and strip dance clubs. Their job is to deliver sexual stimulation to clients. They don’t care if you have any premature or erection problems. On the opposite, sexual healing is to heal sexual dysfunctions from physical and psycho aspects. Sexual pleasure is only a byproduct in the sexual healing process. There are three levels of sexual healing:
1. Sex therapy. This is a talking therapy and run by many licensed counselors or psychiatrists. They tend to treat sexual dysfunctions from emotional and mental levels, plus verbally teach how to make love. Comparing to driving a car, this is the theory part you have to go through first in any drive license office.
2. Hands On therapy. The practitioner masturbate the client to observe the sexual reaction so she can see the root of the problem and give suggestions for clients to follow. The touch is one directional in most case. Comparing to driving a car, this is the parking spot and streets time when you practice your driving skills with a coach sitting beside. This is where I am standing now.
3. Surrogate. The practitioner use intercourse with clients as a way to heal and coach. There are two main types: some are trained by modern sex therapist whose role is mostly on physical level. Some are trained Tantra teachers who guide clients into energy and emotional level healing. Comparing to driving, this is the time on highway, the final stage. This method is very effective in most cases, but hurt the practitioner deeply: The practitioner has to seperate sex from love inside themselves to be able to perform. It's too much sacrifice on one side. I am against it.
Masturbation in a massage parlor:
Client: “You are beautiful. Can I see you topless? This will excite me a lot.”
Practitioner: “$20 extra.”
Client: “OK. Also, can I come two times in a role?”
Practitioner:" Another $20 extra."
Masturbation in a healing session:
Client: “You are beautiful. Can I see you topless? This will excite me a lot.”
Practitioner: “That’s exactly why you come so quick: you pay no attention to your own body’s reaction. Now close your eyes and just feel.”
Client: “Well…. can I come two times in a role?”
Practitioner: “This will make you lose tremendous sexual energy. No for your benefit.”
New Year Wish:
Slow Cooking, Slow Fucking,
It's a Wonderful Life.
Love Heals
by Angela
Love is not sweet words, nice gifts or good sex. Love is a vibration, radiating from heart only. This vibration is also recorded in human being’s DNA, but can be blurred by life experiences. That’s why all kids are so cute until they grow up, until their natural love vibration is covered by lower negative vibrations like anger, sadness, fear etc. A very effective way to deal with these emotional garbage is to erase and replace them with more strong positive emotions, like joy, peace, harmony etc, which is the essence of love.
Hence many sexual problems are rooted in emotional and mental level, touching a body with love is a magical way to deal with these complicated cases. The body always remember what love feels like. When a strong love vibration stay in a body long enough, the body begin synchronize with this higher vibration and shake up lower vibration automatically, the same way as cleaning a dirty floor. The quality of a healer plays a big role here: She/he must be strong, pure and devoted enough to channel love vibration from universe constantly which is not always easy to do:
Case 1: He has little experience with women. So I concentrated on coaching him skills, from kiss to touch to oral to sex, thinking it’s an easy case until in one session he suddenly had erection problem. Instead of taking it a sign of some deeper emotional troubles, we practiced all kinds of skills which did not improve anything. Both of us became very frustrated and I totally forgot the love vibration principle. Only after the session did I remember that he just broke up with the girl he was dating which should be the real reason of this emergency problem: His penis is complaining lack of love by stop working! If I can read the sign, tune into his body and send him some love vibrations, the situation shouldn’t become so bad. Well, a good lesson to me.
Case 2: He should be considered a successful businessman except that after divorce, he never dated again. Reason: erection problem. After I know that his ex-wife used very mean words and behavior to control him, I began channel love vibration and touch him slowly, gently and softly. Within 15 minutes, his body began shaking uncontrollably, he covered the face with hand, but hey, his penis is way up now! Within several sessions, he became completely normal and very quickly found new love in his life. The reason here: I channel strong love vibration to overcome his ex-wife’s negative influence and nurture his self confidence. His body recognized this harmonious vibration immediately, synchronize with it and bring all parts of the body, including the penis, to a harmonious state. Of course no problem anymore.
Mechanical Or Passionate Sex
by Angela
1# Mechanical sex concentrate on the physical body and skills which can stimulate the genital area, includes masturbation and escort service.
2# Passionate sex concentrate on the love feelings, the emotional and mental trance status triggered by the high vibration of heart, includes honeymoon and long time lovers. The physical touch here is merely a container to hold the loving vibration, not the goal anymore.
3# The major physical sign of different sex shows in the MOUTH, not the genital area. Since the tongue is connected with heart directly and so close to the brain, it express your true thoughts. The more frequent and longer you kiss, no matter it’s on mouth, breast or vagina, the more love is involved.
4# Mechanical sex often leads to sexual or relationship problems because this kind of stimulation is limited. The body will get bored after a while, then you have to find a new partner or you lose erection, ejaculate quick.
5# Passionate sex takes more time to attain. It needs patience and insistence. But if you are in that kind of trance states one time, you will never forget it and your heart will long for it again and again. The prerequisite of this sex is that both partners have many similarities: similar hobbies, belief systems and moral standard. You also need certain amount of money, time and attention to pamper it. It's a shinig jewel in the ordinary life.
Emergency Warning:
The pill for hair loss: Finasteride (Propecia) cause permanent erection problem!
Case Study Two: How far can money go?
by Angela
Everyone knows that money is the most important survival tool on earth. Is it the same regarding sex and relationship? You can draw your own conclusion after reading one woman and one man’s true story.
Case 1: When she first came into sex industry, all the motivation is money. She served clients with hand, mouth or vagina based on the donations they offered. Money flowed in and her material life changed from poor to moderate. But two problems puzzled her: she lost passion about sex which she used to love so much and she was unhappy most of the time, especially after intercourse with clients. She couldn’t see the future until one close friend told her:” The golden rule in this industry is to earn as much money as possible, then leave within 2 years.” She found a job as a sales person in a retail store, worked hard and became the manager of the store. One day came a young lady talking on the phone. Based on her experience, she immediately knew the girl was offering escort service as she did before. She couldn’t control herself but tell the young lady briefly:” I used to do the same thing. But I am much happier here.”
Case 2: He is young and rich: He engaged in drug business long time ago and now his business is expanded to real estate and stock market. While he does not need worry about money, he is always worried about his relationship: He used to have a stable girlfriend. Unfortunately that girl became drug addicted and he had to leave her wiping tears. The next girlfriend is a Korean beauty and very wild on the bed. They had some happy time together, but very soon he shouted:” All that bitch want is money!” They broke up before a Christmas and his big house had no lights, no flowers, no tree in that holiday season. Thanks to the power of money, he is never lack of girls. One time he even called two girls together to offer him some oral fun. But one time a massage girl refused his high bid for the favor of intercourse. Reason: low taste. Until now he is still single and searching…..
Case Study One: Magical Pill
by Angela
A guy called me early Sunday morning:” I was with a new girl yesterday night and can’t get hard. I am only 33 years old, very healthy and experienced, What’s going on? Do you have any quick fix?” For this case, the answer is very simple:” Instead of going to bed the second day you meet her, date 3 months first. Your exquisite cock needs more emotional nutrition than your simple brain.”
This is a typical case about magical pill: Men tend to take sexual problems as simple as catching a cold. Viagra or my phone number is their handy solution. The truth is: Viagra can’t fix most sexual problems associated with emotional or mental reason. Its strength is on physical level associated with aging or illness. The drop off rate is also quite high because of the uncomfortable experience or side effect. My service is life style counseling: Tell men what to do and what not to do in daily life: exercise, relationship issues, technique etc.
There are no magical pills or quick fix regarding sexual problems because of its complicated roots: Most sexual problems have many layers of reasons: 1. physical (aging), 2. emotional ( relationship), 3. mental (nerves), even 4. spiritual (past life). The numbers here indicate the difficult levels of treatment. Different layers also affect each other and build a problem net. While only level 1 can be handled by family doctor, level 2 to 4 are all topics in a psycho therapy or counseling session. And like all psycho problems, it takes at least several months to see result. So be patient with yourself if you want to pull the problem’s root out.
To make psycho therapy work for yourself, you must have a good feeling about the counselor which means she or he can tune into you more easily. Their major credit should come from experience, intuition and vast knowledge, not only from a degree or certification. Hypnotherapy and energy healing works are highly recommended based on my experience.
To deal with a long term problem in an economic way, self help is the best option. There are so many free sources now: online information, library books, etc. If you want to speed up, several sessions with a qualified counselor or energy healer is an optimal choice. The key here is to treat any problems when it just shows up. Don’t delay!!! When a minor problem becomes a serious one which you can’t avoid anymore, it means longer time suffering and more costs.
Different Groups of Clients
By Angela
1) Caucasian and Asian men:
Culture and social background play a big rule here:
Most Caucasian men are sexually very experienced: Not only did they begin explore sex in a quite early age (as early as from 13 to 15), many Asian women also want to taste men of different race, even sometimes the man is much older than them. But this luckiness turns to overuse of sexual energy easily which further leads to erection problem: Too many ejaculations makes the body weak. Discipline is vital to Caucasian guys.
Asian men are born with strict sexual limitations which brings them less sexual knowledge and activities. But in turn, they don’t have so many erection problems because they don’t have chance to overuse their sexual energy! Knowledge in sex is key to their growth.
2) Old, Middle Age or Young men:
Men over 60 are very active in sex industry: They need a young body to refill their sexual depletion, keep them still feel good about their sexual prawn, even though sometimes it’s only a temporary illusion. It’s a good idea to find a lover if the wife is already in menopause stage. Girls have to be careful not be depleted too much. Financial reimbursement is a very reasonable request.
Middle age men are the group who mostly concerned about sexual problems: Men’s sexual performance reach peak when they are around thirty. The next 10 years is a slow slide down. From forty to fifty is the middle age crises: Suddenly the little brother refuse to work with him! The sky falls down. Seeking professional help is a quick and good path. There are many places you can go: doctor, counselor and erotic healer. Try several of them and stick to the one with whom you feel good: It’s not their title or education, but the true knowledge and experience which makes things work.
Young men are more interested in chasing after as many girls as they can get. The animal instinct just activate their hormone to act and depress their brain to think. It looks like they are ready to jump onto bed anytime with any girls. Life becomes ten times fun because of their nonstop chasing and learning.
3) Healing and Pleasure
Sexual problem is a very sensitive, but essential topic to most of men just like beauty to most of women. Men in this group show great sincerity and eagerness to rebuild their confidence and make changes in their life, begin with sexual performance, but always go far beyond their expectations. Healing is transformation of a whole being and this is only the trig point.
Prostate massage is a great way to experience a more intensive orgasm. To have a great experience, the receivers have to tune into the moment and really concentrate on the feeling of touch. A good client is always the one who close eyes and moan.
4) Women and Couples
Not many women and couples show up in my studio.
Women can pretend enjoying sex and fake orgasm which makes them ignore the importance of sexual well being. But if they know that sex is a big dose to their beauty, they will definitely change their attitude very quickly.
Couples can benefit maximum in the sex coach by practicing with each other. This small amount of investment worth more than romantic dinner or vacations and the result also lasts life long.
Difference Between Male and Female Sex
by Angela
The most obvious difference is that male release semen while female receive semen. Beneath this single physical phenomenon lies some most important principles in the game of sex:
1# The ideal union is always a man with a woman. Man contribute male energy (hot, aggressive, upward) while woman contribute female energy (cool, receptive, downward). This fusion build a harmonic circle and nurture both side: Male use female energy to cool himself down to the middle point while female use male energy to heat herself up to the middle point. The perfect point is always the middle point.
2# Gay couple’s energy is too hot which will affect their health status in long term run. The solution is to balance themselves by moon: the source of all female energy. Sleeping naked under the moon or a full moon meditation together will balance them quite well. On the other side, lesbian’s energy is too cool. They need sun’s hot ray to balance.
3# Many single men tend to masturbate too often. While the standard frequency of ejaculation should be the age x 0.2, some even ejaculate everyday, in the name of tension release. Since loss of semen is equal to loss of life force energy, plus they don’t have the female energy to nurture, the side effect show up either in the prostate cancer or erection problem. The ideal ejaculation rate should be once a week for couple and once a month for a single man.
4# Having many sex partners is not a big problem to men because men basically give energy away during sex. They don’t take anything in. The interfere between two human’s energy body lasts normally for 3 days. So if men have big things to deal with, stop fucking around 3 days ahead which can stop attracting bad luck.
5# But having many sex partners is a huge problem to women: not only do they receive huge energy explosion during ejaculation (The condom can only stop semen run, but can not stop energy run), the womb even stores sex energy and hold every ejaculation imprint 7 years deep in the body. If too many different sex energy (different men) stored in the same warehouse (one womb), they fight with each other and stink. Then the woman will either have female illness (heavy bleeding period, womb cancer, infertility) or drawn down to bad luck due to heavy energy piled up. That’s why most prostitutes can not keep their hard earned money: These money are spent either for illness or taken away by some major unfortunates happened in their life like addiction or accident.
Well, since God designed men and women so differently, the best way is to follow the natural way: a love union between two opposite sex.
A Boy or A Girl? You can decide.
by Angela
This is about reproduction:
1.1 If you want a boy: Male ejaculate before female reach orgasm
1.2 If you want a girl:Female reach orgasm first, then male ejaculate.
1.3 Reason: chemical change in the vagina.
1.4 If you plan to add one boy and one girl to the growing family, suggest you get a boy first, the girl in the second year: This is the best combination to train and balance their personality.
by Angela
This is about how to prevent STD infections. Although Herpes and Aids are the most scaring illness because they are chronic, they can only hurt you after they penetrate into your bloodstream. That’s why humans have skin wrapped all over the body for primary protection and that’s why it’s so important to protect your skin all the time! Based on this theory:
1.1 Hand release is the most safe sexual activity as long as both partners don’t have any cuts and sores on hand and sexual organs.
1.2 Make sure you don’t brush your teeth bleeding in the morning if you have a date at night. This is the major reason why people get herpes around mouth: They broke the skin inside the mouth by roughly brushing teeth or eating too hot foods, then kiss each other or perform oral sex. The herpes virus goes through the broken skin directly and stay inside. Suggestions:
1.3 Use mouth wash instead of teeth brush on the day of date; 1.4 Don’t eat too hot food like hot soup or hot pot;
1.5 Make sure you don’t have any cuts or openings on your own sexual organ;
1.6 Check partner’s mouth and sexual organ: Herpes can only be infectious if it’s in an active state (the same as cold virus). If the partner’s mouth and sexual organ doesn’t have any openings, sores or red pumps, it’s safe for you even if they have inactive herpes virus hidden in the body.
1.7 Deep throat, vagina penetration and anal sex are three major forms to catch HIV since the skin there are too delicate to stay any violent thrusting movement. So put condom on at the beginning of the games in any circumstances, don’t wait for the last second.
Basic Points to Please Women
by Angela
Welcome to the year of 2010 and this is my new year gift to all men who are eager to be a good lover:
1# Slow Down. While men desire new body to explore, it’s a stable relationship which can turn a woman on. So be patient and spend some time to know each other before rush to bed. Three months regular dating is my suggestion. Some women initiate sex early in their date for the good wish of pleasing and keeping the man which is not a smart move. Hold back in this case and you will find out sex will be much sweeter when women really open them up.
2# From top down. While the penis can be touched directly with happy moaning, most vagina will scream Get Out! if you dare try. It’s because women definitely need foreplay to activate their sexual pleasure from mouth, to breast, at last to vagina. So kiss a woman from top to toe: it’s not a romantic poet, it’s 100% practical! And if you know something about female’s G-spot orgasm, you get some extra credit.
3# 15 minutes afterplay. Stroke each other after both partners reach orgasm. Unless it’s a one night stay, the afterplay works as a bridge to the next love making because the girl will always remember how good it feels when the pleasure happens both inside the body (orgasm) and outside the body (stroke). So pretend to be still interested in her although all you want is rolling over and snoring. It’s only 15 minutes anyway because the girl will feel sleepy too after this time period. You can beat many competitors simply by this tip. Hey guys, you own me a lot of gratitude now! Also, don't take shower within 30 minutes after love-making which is not good for your kidney. Wipe sweets away.
This is like a formal three course dinner: salad or soup first (foreplay), then comes the main meal (penetration), finish with sweet or coffee(afterplay). Of course it’s an exotic French style one which lasts from 2 hours to one night. If you only want a MacDonald quickie, forget all these points and good luck.
Thoughts about Sex Industry from Aspect of Kundalini Yoga
by Angela
Although sex industry generates billions of dollars a year, not many scholars dare to view it closely from a neutral point because of all social, moral and political restrictions. After a few years direct experiences and reading all materials I can get, I consider Kundalini Yoga Bible in this industry. This yoga system has two basic views about sex: 1) Sex is the strongest life force exchange form between two humans. 2) A woman need 7 years to get rid of a man’s imprint from her energy body after intercourse while men only need 3 days. This is the natural law in this industry:
1. Why does sex industry always have more male clients than female clients?
Biologically it’s because of different qualities of semen and eggs. One ejaculation alone can produce millions of semen which strive to catch an egg and continue its unique DNA pattern to next generation. This fated purpose makes semen search for as many eggs as possible and fight with different group of semen. That’s why men are generally aggressive and attracted to many women.
One woman can only produce 25 to 40 eggs in her whole life. Her purpose is more about waiting and screening to get the best quality semen. The next job is to nurture the only egg in the womb and give birth to a new life. That’s why women are generally passive and royal to one relationship.
Applying this principle to sexual relationship means that it’s natural and reasonable for one strong male to have several female partners as long as he can take care of all of them. But since one man can only marry one woman by common law, men are forced to catch more women in other ways: lover, one night stay, sex party, sex trade etc.
2. How should a man balance between his instinct and social requirement?
First of all, keep your legal wife as long as possible. Since sexual attraction disappeared within 2 years and obviously you can’t change wife every two years, it’s a smart idea to put financial and family interest ahead of personal interest.
Second, choose women who have common interests with you. This is a guarantee of good sex: Good sex requires harmony between two magnetic fields and similar taste to life is a big sign of similar magnetic field. In another word: It’s always better to keep a lover than one night stay or buy sex on hourly rate.
Third, take responsibility for your women. If you take advantage of women’s emotions or run away from personal contract, you make women hate you. Since hatre contains destroying energy, it will drag you into trouble if it’s accumulated, either emotionally or financially. This is also called “karma”.
3 How can women survive and benefit from sex industry?
First of all, money is not everything. The most important thing is your personal boundary: What makes you feel sick? Can you tolerate clients whose behavior degrades you? Can you work on call 24 hours a day? All these details are your protection against any physical and psycho exploitation.
Second, no intercourse, including anal sex. 1)Too many intercourses is the fastest way for a woman to age including loose breast, loose vigina and loose hips. 2)A karmic energy exchange happened during intercourse and it takes 7 years for a woman to remove imprints of one single man. That’s why through the ages, prostitutes have been looked down upon, not because of any moral judgment, but because prostitutes carry a huge load of karma they’ve taken on from being intimate with so many different men. 3)Intercourse with men more than 20 years older or on lower energy level sucks a woman's energy away which is equal to losing the ability of keeping hard earn money which normally takes form of addiction,
depression and illness.4) Oral sex is a win-win case in this business: Since most wives do not perform a 30 minutes blowjob, men are still willing to pay high for this kind of pleasure; A woman will gain tremendous vitality by the sexual energy released into mouth.
Third, take care of yourself. Proper nutrition and exercise is a must be. Energy cleansing is vital to stay long in this business. Yoga and meditation are two effective ways to clean all dense energy attached to your aura by touching. If you don’t like this business, leave within 2 years which is a good time frame to accumulate some fortune and avoid permanent damage.
Questions and Answers About Prostate Massage
by Angela
More and more men begin curious about prostate massage simply because there are so many materials talking about it right now: gay community, tantra teachings, medical doctors etc. After three years specialized in prostate massage, I give myself credit to professionally answer some questions I received from various clients:
1) What is prostate massage?
This is an internal touch on men’s prostate gland which located inside the anus beneath the base of penis. To proceed a prostate massage, people begin with anal massage normally since there are a lot of pleasure nerves around this area, then slowly go inside with fingers or tools, wearing medical gloves.
2) Why is prostate massage highly recommended?
First of all, prostate massage brings a more intense, deeper level orgasm than genial touch. The pleasure wave you experience begins from the root of spine then travel to the whole body which is different from the simple pleasure feelings around pelvic area.
Secondly, since it can trig a different kind of orgasm, it's a very effective way to heal erection problems. It builds a positive cycle in male sexual reactions: the biological arousal build the psychological confidence and high self esteem which push the physical body to higher level sensitivity.
Third, it’s very good for men’s health: When prostate contract, it’s a self exercise to improve the muscle’s strength and flexibility which on some level can prevent prostate cancer.
3) Am I a gay if I like prostate massage?
No. I saw in my practice that more and more straight guys or couples come to learn prostate massage simply for the sake of pleasure. The sexuality depends on your brain, not your body.
4) Is there any cautions about prostate massage?
First, not everyone is suitable for this advanced techniques. It requires a loose anal muscle: If you feel pain or uncomfortable at the beginning of prostate massage, it’s a sign that your time does not come yet. It’s better for people over forties.
Second, do Kegel exercise everyday. Since a loose anal muscle is also a sign of energy leaking and aging, you can keep young and still enjoy prostate orgasm by attaining a flexible anal muscle.
Psycho Factors in Premature Ejaculation
by Angela
Premature ejaculation happens in all ages. For a healthy and horny boy, it’s mostly biological. A simple squeeze technique is enough to solve the problem. For an aged senior, it always connects with erection problem. Viagra is a good easy way to go. But there are still a big number of men beyond these two simple catalogs whose problem comes from emotional and mental dimensions:
1# Excitement in a new relationship. They are so busy exploring a new body that the brain just ignore any signals from his own lower part. Keys: pay attention to your own sensual feelings. Try close eyes, lie on bottom, be passive and ask the girl to stop when it’s too close to explosion. Change roles when it gets bored.
2# Unwillingness to stay in a new relationship. If your hidden intention is a short term romance, your body will betray you by ejaculate fast because the body doesn’t know how to lie. The body is telling the girl: Hey, I want to leave as soon as possible. Keys: Tell your partner the truth. If she agrees, your body will get relaxed and things will become better automatically.
3# Hostility in an existed relationship. If you are married for quite a long time and this problem show up suddenly, it’s a sign for you to read: I don’t like this woman anymore and want to leave quickly. SOS. This happens often in a subconscious level because the busy daily life take up the most room of the conscious mind. Keys: Slow down and have a close look at the marriage. Take wife’s nag seriously if you want to save the marriage.
These are the most cases I dealt with in the private practice. You can see that there is always a reason beneath any symptoms. As long as you can dig out the root of problem, there is a chance to get better.
Easy Ways to Prevent Erection Problems
by Angela
1# Your age x 0.2days is the proper ejaculation frequency.
This is the formula from Traditional Chinese Medicine. If you are 40 years old, so your ejaculation frequency should be 40 x 0.2=8 days: If you ejaculate every 8 days, you will be in perfect balance, neither overuse your sexual energy nor depress yourself. Most men tend to ejaculate more often than that number for tension release or habitual pleasure which is the No.1 reason for erection problem. One thing is guaranteed: If you force your body reproduce semen quicker than the natural cycle, your body will become sick sooner or later.
For seniors over 70, it's strongly recommanded to avoid ejaculation at all.
2# 5 minutes Kegel exercise
Inhale, squeeze your anal muscel as tight as possible. Hold for 10 seconds. Exhale and relax. Repeat it 5 minutes after wake up or before love making. This is a very simple and wonderful way to keep you energetic all day long and make your lady happy on weekend. Persistent for 3 months at least. Then you will fall in love with this love muscle exercise.
3# Open to oriental sexual teachings.
Tao from China and Tantra from India are two main streams within this topic. Tantra.com is a website worth studying. “Sacred Sexuality” (by Michael Mirdad) is a good book covering a wide range of topics including a lot of practical trainings. Although I am officially trained in westen sex therapy, I always combine healing methods from easten tradition: while westen sex therapy pay main attention to psychology factors (female part), easten therapy pay main attention to biological factors (male part) which should be integrated into one complete model.
4# Know the Side Effects of Medications.
Three illness is almost the guarantee of erection problems:
1) High blood pressure. To lower the blood pressure means to lower the sexual desire at the same time. Suggestion: Ask your family doctor to change pills or go to a naturapatic doctor to take herbal dose.
2) Diabetes. A shrinked muscel cann't perfor