Case Study One: Magical Pill
by Angela
A guy called me early Sunday morning:” I was with a new girl yesterday night and can’t get hard. I am only 33 years old, very healthy and experienced, What’s going on? Do you have any quick fix?” For this case, the answer is very simple:” Instead of going to bed the second day you meet her, date 3 months first. Your exquisite cock needs more emotional nutrition than your simple brain.”
This is a typical case about magical pill: Men tend to take sexual problems as simple as catching a cold. Viagra or my phone number is their handy solution. The truth is: Viagra can’t fix most sexual problems associated with emotional or mental reason. Its strength is on physical level associated with aging or illness. The drop off rate is also quite high because of the uncomfortable experience or side effect. My service is life style counseling: Tell men what to do and what not to do in daily life: exercise, relationship issues, technique etc.
There are no magical pills or quick fix regarding sexual problems because of its complicated roots: Most sexual problems have many layers of reasons: 1. physical (aging), 2. emotional ( relationship), 3. mental (nerves), even 4. spiritual (past life). The numbers here indicate the difficult levels of treatment. Different layers also affect each other and build a problem net. While only level 1 can be handled by family doctor, level 2 to 4 are all topics in a psycho therapy or counseling session. And like all psycho problems, it takes at least several months to see result. So be patient with yourself if you want to pull the problem’s root out.
To make psycho therapy work for yourself, you must have a good feeling about the counselor which means she or he can tune into you more easily. Their major credit should come from experience, intuition and vast knowledge, not only from a degree or certification. Hypnotherapy and energy healing works are highly recommended based on my experience.
To deal with a long term problem in an economic way, self help is the best option. There are so many free sources now: online information, library books, etc. If you want to speed up, several sessions with a qualified counselor or energy healer is an optimal choice. The key here is to treat any problems when it just shows up. Don’t delay!!! When a minor problem becomes a serious one which you can’t avoid anymore, it means longer time suffering and more costs.
Different Groups of Clients
By Angela
1) Caucasian and Asian men:
Culture and social background play a big rule here:
Most Caucasian men are sexually very experienced: Not only did they begin explore sex in a quite early age (as early as from 13 to 15), many Asian women also want to taste men of different race, even sometimes the man is much older than them. But this luckiness turns to overuse of sexual energy easily which further leads to erection problem: Too many ejaculations makes the body weak. Discipline is vital to Caucasian guys.
Asian men are born with strict sexual limitations which brings them less sexual knowledge and activities. But in turn, they don’t have so many erection problems because they don’t have chance to overuse their sexual energy! Knowledge in sex is key to their growth.
2) Old, Middle Age or Young men:
Men over 60 are very active in sex industry: They need a young body to refill their sexual depletion, keep them still feel good about their sexual prawn, even though sometimes it’s only a temporary illusion. It’s a good idea to find a lover if the wife is already in menopause stage. Girls have to be careful not be depleted too much. Financial reimbursement is a very reasonable request.
Middle age men are the group who mostly concerned about sexual problems: Men’s sexual performance reach peak when they are around thirty. The next 10 years is a slow slide down. From forty to fifty is the middle age crises: Suddenly the little brother refuse to work with him! The sky falls down. Seeking professional help is a quick and good path. There are many places you can go: doctor, counselor and erotic healer. Try several of them and stick to the one with whom you feel good: It’s not their title or education, but the true knowledge and experience which makes things work.
Young men are more interested in chasing after as many girls as they can get. The animal instinct just activate their hormone to act and depress their brain to think. It looks like they are ready to jump onto bed anytime with any girls. Life becomes ten times fun because of their nonstop chasing and learning.
3) Healing and Pleasure
Sexual problem is a very sensitive, but essential topic to most of men just like beauty to most of women. Men in this group show great sincerity and eagerness to rebuild their confidence and make changes in their life, begin with sexual performance, but always go far beyond their expectations. Healing is transformation of a whole being and this is only the trig point.
Prostate massage is a great way to experience a more intensive orgasm. To have a great experience, the receivers have to tune into the moment and really concentrate on the feeling of touch. A good client is always the one who close eyes and moan.
4) Women and Couples
Not many women and couples show up in my studio.
Women can pretend enjoying sex and fake orgasm which makes them ignore the importance of sexual well being. But if they know that sex is a big dose to their beauty, they will definitely change their attitude very quickly.
Couples can benefit maximum in the sex coach by practicing with each other. This small amount of investment worth more than romantic dinner or vacations and the result also lasts life long.
Difference Between Male and Female Sex
by Angela
The most obvious difference is that male release semen while female receive semen. Beneath this single physical phenomenon lies some most important principles in the game of sex:
1# The ideal union is always a man with a woman. Man contribute male energy (hot, aggressive, upward) while woman contribute female energy (cool, receptive, downward). This fusion build a harmonic circle and nurture both side: Male use female energy to cool himself down to the middle point while female use male energy to heat herself up to the middle point. The perfect point is always the middle point.
2# Gay couple’s energy is too hot which will affect their health status in long term run. The solution is to balance themselves by moon: the source of all female energy. Sleeping naked under the moon or a full moon meditation together will balance them quite well. On the other side, lesbian’s energy is too cool. They need sun’s hot ray to balance.
3# Many single men tend to masturbate too often. While the standard frequency of ejaculation should be the age x 0.2, some even ejaculate everyday, in the name of tension release. Since loss of semen is equal to loss of life force energy, plus they don’t have the female energy to nurture, the side effect show up either in the prostate cancer or erection problem. The ideal ejaculation rate should be once a week for couple and once a month for a single man.
4# Having many sex partners is not a big problem to men because men basically give energy away during sex. They don’t take anything in. The interfere between two human’s energy body lasts normally for 3 days. So if men have big things to deal with, stop fucking around 3 days ahead which can stop attracting bad luck.
5# But having many sex partners is a huge problem to women: not only do they receive huge energy explosion during ejaculation (The condom can only stop semen run, but can not stop energy run), the womb even stores sex energy and hold every ejaculation imprint 7 years deep in the body. If too many different sex energy (different men) stored in the same warehouse (one womb), they fight with each other and stink. Then the woman will either have female illness (heavy bleeding period, womb cancer, infertility) or drawn down to bad luck due to heavy energy piled up. That’s why most prostitutes can not keep their hard earned money: These money are spent either for illness or taken away by some major unfortunates happened in their life like addiction or accident.
Well, since God designed men and women so differently, the best way is to follow the natural way: a love union between two opposite sex.
A Boy or A Girl? You can decide.
This is about reproduction:
1.1 If you want a boy: Male ejaculate before female reach orgasm
1.2 If you want a girl:Female reach orgasm first, then male ejaculate.
1.3 Reason: chemical change in the vagina.
1.4 If you plan to add one boy and one girl to the growing family, suggest you get a boy first, the girl in the second year: This is the best combination to train and balance their personality.
Mouth Wash is as Important as Condom
by AngelaThis is about how to prevent STD infections. Although Herpes and Aids are the most scaring illness because they are chronic, they can only hurt you after they penetrate into your bloodstream. That’s why humans have skin wrapped all over the body for primary protection and that’s why it’s so important to protect your skin all the time! Based on this theory:
1.1 Hand release is the most safe sexual activity as long as both partners don’t have any cuts and sores on hand and sexual organs.
1.2 Make sure you don’t brush your teeth bleeding in the morning if you have a date at night. This is the major reason why people get herpes around mouth: They broke the skin inside the mouth by roughly brushing teeth or eating too hot foods, then kiss each other or perform oral sex. The herpes virus goes through the broken skin directly and stay inside. Suggestions:
1.3 Use mouth wash instead of teeth brush on the day of date; 1.4 Don’t eat too hot food like hot soup or hot pot;
1.5 Make sure you don’t have any cuts or openings on your own sexual organ;
1.6 Check partner’s mouth and sexual organ: Herpes can only be infectious if it’s in an active state (the same as cold virus). If the partner’s mouth and sexual organ doesn’t have any openings, sores or red pumps, it’s safe for you even if they have inactive herpes virus hidden in the body.
1.7 Deep throat, vagina penetration and anal sex are three major forms to catch HIV since the skin there are too delicate to stay any violent thrusting movement. So put condom on at the beginning of the games in any circumstances, don’t wait for the last second.
Basic Points to Please Women
by Angela
Welcome to the year of 2010 and this is my new year gift to all men who are eager to be a good lover:
1# Slow Down. While men desire new body to explore, it’s a stable relationship which can turn a woman on. So be patient and spend some time to know each other before rush to bed. Three months regular dating is my suggestion. Some women initiate sex early in their date for the good wish of pleasing and keeping the man which is not a smart move. Hold back in this case and you will find out sex will be much sweeter when women really open them up.
2# From top down. While the penis can be touched directly with happy moaning, most vagina will scream Get Out! if you dare try. It’s because women definitely need foreplay to activate their sexual pleasure from mouth, to breast, at last to vagina. So kiss a woman from top to toe: it’s not a romantic poet, it’s 100% practical! And if you know something about female’s G-spot orgasm, you get some extra credit.
3# 15 minutes afterplay. Stroke each other after both partners reach orgasm. Unless it’s a one night stay, the afterplay works as a bridge to the next love making because the girl will always remember how good it feels when the pleasure happens both inside the body (orgasm) and outside the body (stroke). So pretend to be still interested in her although all you want is rolling over and snoring. It’s only 15 minutes anyway because the girl will feel sleepy too after this time period. You can beat many competitors simply by this tip. Hey guys, you own me a lot of gratitude now! Also, don't take shower within 30 minutes after love-making which is not good for your kidney. Wipe sweets away.
This is like a formal three course dinner: salad or soup first (foreplay), then comes the main meal (penetration), finish with sweet or coffee(afterplay). Of course it’s an exotic French style one which lasts from 2 hours to one night. If you only want a MacDonald quickie, forget all these points and good luck.
Thoughts about Sex Industry from Aspect of Kundalini Yoga
by Angela
Although sex industry generates billions of dollars a year, not many scholars dare to view it closely from a neutral point because of all social, moral and political restrictions. After a few years direct experiences and reading all materials I can get, I consider Kundalini Yoga Bible in this industry. This yoga system has two basic views about sex: 1) Sex is the strongest life force exchange form between two humans. 2) A woman need 7 years to get rid of a man’s imprint from her energy body after intercourse while men only need 3 days. This is the natural law in this industry:
1. Why does sex industry always have more male clients than female clients?
Biologically it’s because of different qualities of semen and eggs. One ejaculation alone can produce millions of semen which strive to catch an egg and continue its unique DNA pattern to next generation. This fated purpose makes semen search for as many eggs as possible and fight with different group of semen. That’s why men are generally aggressive and attracted to many women.
One woman can only produce 25 to 40 eggs in her whole life. Her purpose is more about waiting and screening to get the best quality semen. The next job is to nurture the only egg in the womb and give birth to a new life. That’s why women are generally passive and royal to one relationship.
Applying this principle to sexual relationship means that it’s natural and reasonable for one strong male to have several female partners as long as he can take care of all of them. But since one man can only marry one woman by common law, men are forced to catch more women in other ways: lover, one night stay, sex party, sex trade etc.
2. How should a man balance between his instinct and social requirement?
First of all, keep your legal wife as long as possible. Since sexual attraction disappeared within 2 years and obviously you can’t change wife every two years, it’s a smart idea to put financial and family interest ahead of personal interest.
Second, choose women who have common interests with you. This is a guarantee of good sex: Good sex requires harmony between two magnetic fields and similar taste to life is a big sign of similar magnetic field. In another word: It’s always better to keep a lover than one night stay or buy sex on hourly rate.
Third, take responsibility for your women. If you take advantage of women’s emotions or run away from personal contract, you make women hate you. Since hatre contains destroying energy, it will drag you into trouble if it’s accumulated, either emotionally or financially. This is also called “karma”.
3 How can women survive and benefit from sex industry?
First of all, money is not everything. The most important thing is your personal boundary: What makes you feel sick? Can you tolerate clients whose behavior degrades you? Can you work on call 24 hours a day? All these details are your protection against any physical and psycho exploitation.
Second, no intercourse, including anal sex. 1)Too many intercourses is the fastest way for a woman to age including loose breast, loose vigina and loose hips. 2)A karmic energy exchange happened during intercourse and it takes 7 years for a woman to remove imprints of one single man. That’s why through the ages, prostitutes have been looked down upon, not because of any moral judgment, but because prostitutes carry a huge load of karma they’ve taken on from being intimate with so many different men. 3)Intercourse with men more than 20 years older or on lower energy level sucks a woman's energy away which is equal to losing the ability of keeping hard earn money which normally takes form of addiction,
depression and illness.4) Oral sex is a win-win case in this business: Since most wives do not perform a 30 minutes blowjob, men are still willing to pay high for this kind of pleasure; A woman will gain tremendous vitality by the sexual energy released into mouth.
Third, take care of yourself. Proper nutrition and exercise is a must be. Energy cleansing is vital to stay long in this business. Yoga and meditation are two effective ways to clean all dense energy attached to your aura by touching. If you don’t like this business, leave within 2 years which is a good time frame to accumulate some fortune and avoid permanent damage.
Questions and Answers About Prostate Massage
by Angela
More and more men begin curious about prostate massage simply because there are so many materials talking about it right now: gay community, tantra teachings, medical doctors etc. After three years specialized in prostate massage, I give myself credit to professionally answer some questions I received from various clients:
1) What is prostate massage?
This is an internal touch on men’s prostate gland which located inside the anus beneath the base of penis. To proceed a prostate massage, people begin with anal massage normally since there are a lot of pleasure nerves around this area, then slowly go inside with fingers or tools, wearing medical gloves.
2) Why is prostate massage highly recommended?
First of all, prostate massage brings a more intense, deeper level orgasm than genial touch. The pleasure wave you experience begins from the root of spine then travel to the whole body which is different from the simple pleasure feelings around pelvic area.
Secondly, since it can trig a different kind of orgasm, it's a very effective way to heal erection problems. It builds a positive cycle in male sexual reactions: the biological arousal build the psychological confidence and high self esteem which push the physical body to higher level sensitivity.
Third, it’s very good for men’s health: When prostate contract, it’s a self exercise to improve the muscle’s strength and flexibility which on some level can prevent prostate cancer.
3) Am I a gay if I like prostate massage?
No. I saw in my practice that more and more straight guys or couples come to learn prostate massage simply for the sake of pleasure. The sexuality depends on your brain, not your body.
4) Is there any cautions about prostate massage?
First, not everyone is suitable for this advanced techniques. It requires a loose anal muscle: If you feel pain or uncomfortable at the beginning of prostate massage, it’s a sign that your time does not come yet. It’s better for people over forties.
Second, do Kegel exercise everyday. Since a loose anal muscle is also a sign of energy leaking and aging, you can keep young and still enjoy prostate orgasm by attaining a flexible anal muscle.
Psycho Factors in Premature Ejaculation
by Angela
Premature ejaculation happens in all ages. For a healthy and horny boy, it’s mostly biological. A simple squeeze technique is enough to solve the problem. For an aged senior, it always connects with erection problem. Viagra is a good easy way to go. But there are still a big number of men beyond these two simple catalogs whose problem comes from emotional and mental dimensions:
1# Excitement in a new relationship. They are so busy exploring a new body that the brain just ignore any signals from his own lower part. Keys: pay attention to your own sensual feelings. Try close eyes, lie on bottom, be passive and ask the girl to stop when it’s too close to explosion. Change roles when it gets bored.
2# Unwillingness to stay in a new relationship. If your hidden intention is a short term romance, your body will betray you by ejaculate fast because the body doesn’t know how to lie. The body is telling the girl: Hey, I want to leave as soon as possible. Keys: Tell your partner the truth. If she agrees, your body will get relaxed and things will become better automatically.
3# Hostility in an existed relationship. If you are married for quite a long time and this problem show up suddenly, it’s a sign for you to read: I don’t like this woman anymore and want to leave quickly. SOS. This happens often in a subconscious level because the busy daily life take up the most room of the conscious mind. Keys: Slow down and have a close look at the marriage. Take wife’s nag seriously if you want to save the marriage.
These are the most cases I dealt with in the private practice. You can see that there is always a reason beneath any symptoms. As long as you can dig out the root of problem, there is a chance to get better.
Easy Ways to Prevent Erection Problems
by Angela
1# Your age x 0.2days is the proper ejaculation frequency.
This is the formula from Traditional Chinese Medicine. If you are 40 years old, so your ejaculation frequency should be 40 x 0.2=8 days: If you ejaculate every 8 days, you will be in perfect balance, neither overuse your sexual energy nor depress yourself. Most men tend to ejaculate more often than that number for tension release or habitual pleasure which is the No.1 reason for erection problem. One thing is guaranteed: If you force your body reproduce semen quicker than the natural cycle, your body will become sick sooner or later.
For seniors over 70, it's strongly recommanded to avoid ejaculation at all.
2# 5 minutes Kegel exercise
Inhale, squeeze your anal muscel as tight as possible. Hold for 10 seconds. Exhale and relax. Repeat it 5 minutes after wake up or before love making. This is a very simple and wonderful way to keep you energetic all day long and make your lady happy on weekend. Persistent for 3 months at least. Then you will fall in love with this love muscle exercise.
3# Open to oriental sexual teachings.
Tao from China and Tantra from India are two main streams within this topic. Tantra.com is a website worth studying. “Sacred Sexuality” (by Michael Mirdad) is a good book covering a wide range of topics including a lot of practical trainings. Although I am officially trained in westen sex therapy, I always combine healing methods from easten tradition: while westen sex therapy pay main attention to psychology factors (female part), easten therapy pay main attention to biological factors (male part) which should be integrated into one complete model.
4# Know the Side Effects of Medications.
Three illness is almost the guarantee of erection problems:
1) High blood pressure. To lower the blood pressure means to lower the sexual desire at the same time. Suggestion: Ask your family doctor to change pills or go to a naturapatic doctor to take herbal dose.
2) Diabetes. A shrinked muscel cann't perform a lot. Suggestion: forget erection, focus on pleasure and orgasm. Physiologically, it's three different things between erection, ejaculation and orgasm although men are conventionally educated to put them all together. If you learn to separate them, it's huge potential in every term.
3) Depression. The root reason for this illness is body's lack of vital life energy. Instead of taking any psychiatric pill, take meditation, Yoga, Tai Qi, Reiki and herbal dose. These energy medicines work more effective and you will not be addicted to them.
